The existential approach in coaching goes beyond such topics as performance or achieving.
It goes to a deeper and specifically works with life topics that lay beneath, such as our values,
authenticity, our work mission, life fulfillment and the true meaning of the things,
activities and relationships we devote our life-time to. It helps us to see the substance of our lives,
to perceive and respect our own essence, to organize our direction,
to make decisions consciously in accordance with our life intentions and to act with full internal consent.
The cornerstones of existence – the four existential fundamental motivations
1. We are motivated by the fundamental question of existence: I exist – can I be in this world where I live?
Do I have the necessary space, protection and support?
When we experience these, we feel accepted and this in turn enables us to embrace an accepting attitude toward ourselves.
A deficit can lead to anxiety.
2. We are motivated by the fundamental question of life: I am alive – do I like this?
Do I have access to my emotions?
Do I feel my emotions, and do I feel their value?
Experiencing the value of my life makes me aware that it is good to be alive – “that I am here”.
Deficits can lead to depression.
3. We are motivated by the fundamental question of “self”: I am myself – but do I feel free to be myself?
Am I allowed to be who I am?
Do I experience attention, justice, appreciation, esteem, respect, my own worth?
Do I feel I have the right to be me?
Deficits at this level can lead to a histrionic complex of symptoms and to the main personality disorders.
4. We are motivated by the question of meaning: I am here – for what purpose?
What is present today that may make my life part of a meaningful whole?
What do I live for?
A deficit can lead to suicidal tendencies, aggravate addictions and other dependencies.
We are continuously challenged and questioned by the four existential motivations –
world, life, self, context and future (meaning).
The practice of Existential Analysis relies on dialogue as the main therapeutic tool
to explore these challenges at the individual level.
Existential fulfilment is the result of a life with “inner consent”.