1/ We are motivated by the fundamental question of existence: I exist – can I be in this world where I live?
The first condition arises from the simple fact that I am here at all, that I am in the world.
- Where do I go from here?
- Can I cope with my being there?
- Do I understand it?
- I am here, this is me – how is that even possible?
This seemingly self-evident fact can lead to questioning of great depth.
If I really think about this, I realize that I cannot truly comprehend this. My existence appears like an island in an ocean of ignorance and alludes to connections that surpass me. The most adequate attitude towards this incomprehensible fact is one of astonishment. I can only be astonished that I am here at all.
But I am here, which puts the fundamental question of existence before me: I am – can I be?
To bring these questions to a practical and manageable level, I might apply them to my own situation. Can I claim my place in this world under the conditions?
This demands three things: protection, space, and support.
- Do I enjoy protection and acceptance, and do I feel at home somewhere?
- Do I have enough space for being there?
- Where do I find support in my life?
When we experience these, we feel accepted and this in turn enables us to embrace an accepting attitude toward ourselves.
A deficit can lead to anxiety.